Welcome to The Being Responsible show. I decided to rebrand Unleash Love after realizing that my focus had shifted from relationships and mental health to the growing lack of responsibility and leadership. In this first episode of The Being Responsible Show, I cover the last two years of Unleash Love, I explain how we got here, what the new brand is about, and the future.
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[00:00:01] Clement: Hello there and welcome to the first episode of the being responsible show. I know, I know this should be called unleashed love, but it’s changing. In fact, it already has changed. I already bought the domain. I already configured it in everything. So it’s there being responsible show now. I’m sorry. Why, why did I change it?
Well, that’s what this episode’s about, right? That’s what I’m going to explain. Um, you know, I’ve been doing the unleashed. Podcasts now for around about two years. And in those two years, I’ve talked about everything from intimacy to sex, to how to get your girlfriend back to, you know, being a parent to all of those things, mental.
Right. Um, we’ve touched on that a lot in the pandemic, especially, and it’s been an amazing journey. And without the risk of sounding like I’m cliche, you [00:01:00] know, because everyone always talks about their own podcast is like this amazing journey and, and whatnot. It really has been great, but, and this is the thing I’ve changed.
I. Developed as a person in my professional life, in my personal life, I have new interests. You know what I was talking about before? Not all of what I was talking about before, but some of it quite a lot of it, I’m not that interested anymore in continuing to discuss those things, because I think they’ve been discussed to the end of the earth and back.
So the being responsible show is basically me. Focusing on what I think I’ve had a, you know, a huge amount of challenge with my own life. And what I can see is one of the major hurdles for people today, not just current [00:02:00] generations, like, you know, younger generations rather. I mean, all generations at the moment are current, but also the older generations, like my generation, I’m a millennial I’m just on the border of being a millennial.
Right. Being responsible is a skill. It’s not something we’re born with, you know, discipline and hard work and delayed gratification are things that we hear all the time as being, you know, what we should strive for. They’re good character traits, but it’s hard. To have those, it’s hard to have those effortlessly.
And I would argue that most people don’t have effortless discipline. Most people don’t have effortless hard work or delayed gratification. Those are all skills that you have to keep sharpening. [00:03:00] You have to keep working on over time. And it fascinates me because I’m at the point in my life now where I really want to help as many people as I can.
And this subject is so helpful to me, to me, I learned from the best I learned from, you know, listening to podcasts, like the Joe Rogan experience. I talk about him quite a lot. I learned about this from Jocko wilnick I learned about it from Mel Robbins. I learned about it from David Goggins. Why does everyone’s name rhyme?
Anyway, what I’m trying to say is it’s a hot topic right now. Not everyone’s talking about it because we’re in a day and age where we’re weak. Okay. Look, let me explain what I just said. I don’t mean your weak. I just mean in general, our species right now is struggling with the most trivial things while the planet is in a [00:04:00] state of chaos, right?
The economies have really suffered hard throughout this. Regardless of how you think it started and who you think is responsible or whether it’s nature. It doesn’t matter because we’re in it now. And we’ve got to work together to come through this stronger than we were when we went into it. But in order to do that, we’ve gotta be strong ourselves and shock, horror things.
Aren’t going so well because a lot of us are. Not good at those things that I just mentioned. Discipline hard work, delayed gratification. We’ve gotten complacent, we’ve become lazy. We are impatient. We don’t want to wait. We, we want convenience over everything else. And that is a terrible, terrible predicament.
We’re getting ourselves into because patients. As we all [00:05:00] know is a virtue, right? Why would they say that? Why would that expression exist? Think about yourself. How patient are you these days? And look, I get it. I understand I’m on the same page as you were in the same team. We’re going through the same thing.
Everybody’s going through the same thing right now. Patients I noticed today, I was so impatient. I was waiting in line for something. You know, it was actually, I was in line at a da shell station. I was sending a document back to the UK and the, the woman that was serving me was also training someone and that has to happen.
Right? I mean, people don’t learn, you know, by themselves, you need to, you need to guide them through the process. So it was taking twice as long is what I’m saying. And I was starting to get really impatient and I noticed myself getting impatient and I thought to myself, wow, If I spend another five minutes here because of this, how much is that going to affect my day?
It’s [00:06:00] not going affect my day. I didn’t have anything urgently waiting for me on the other side. And so I was getting impatient for no good reason and it worried me because if I can get impatient for no good reason, it means my brain, my mindset, my myself, is in is, is not in a good place. All right.
There’s a narrative in my brain. That’s going around and unbelieving it and it’s manifesting as emotion. Now. That’s what I’m saying is happening to us. And it’s been happening for a long time and a lot of us are unconscious of it, this show. All right. And I’ll explain the format of the show shortly. I know you’re dying to know we’ll cover topics such as those animals.
And I’m also going to talk about my own personal experiences, because those are the ones that are most intimate to me. And I know that you can relate to them because everyone goes through these things, right. I’ve had social anxiety a lot in my life and it’s still [00:07:00] with me. So I have to struggle with that.
I have to be an adult, even though it’s really uncomfortable. Sometimes it hurts. It hurts to be an adult, right. Especially in a day and age where. Convenience is king. You know, you, all you need to do is look to either your left or your right. And usually you can find something to distract you these days, whether it’s a phone or a PS five or a partner or porn or whatever, there’s always something that’s going to be gently whispering in your ear.
Hey, don’t worry too much about it. Relax. There’s always tomorrow. But, so what if you don’t do that? So what if you don’t stand up to your own? Well, if you don’t meet your own standards rather, it’s okay. You always got tomorrow. And I think that that’s a terrible place to be too. All right. So what I want to do is.[00:08:00]
As much as I can document my journey through being an adult with various forms of anxiety, various fears, worries, doubts, imposter syndrome. Oh my God. All these things just weighing me down, but I’m getting up and I’m punching my way through it and I’m kicking my way through it. And you know, that sounds weird right.
To the new age. It was like, oh, let’s not talk about violence or aggression or anger. Let’s do, let’s talk about Zen. Let’s be, uh, let’s be on a higher frequency here. But what I’ve realized is that there is a place for fierceness. There is a place for aggression. There is a place for that thing we’ve been told to suppress.
For so long, which is our burning desire and our need to succeed at any cost sometimes. I [00:09:00] mean, look, I’m not going to trample over someone else to get to the top, but I’m going to do what I need to do to get there. I am going to do it because I know it’s important and I know I can, and I believe in myself.
So what I want to do is I want to try and bring the conversation and people’s, people’s focus back a little bit back to center, back to center. Let’s not worry too much about. You know, whether we’re on the right side of history or not. That’s a big conversation right now because we’re going through something that we’ve never lived through, at least in our generation, right.
We’ve never had this kind of catastrophe happen in our lifetime, or if it did, we were really young and we don’t know how to navigate the waters and our leaders are rubbish. They’re terrible, terrible leaders. If you think of our leaders now, And you put them against an archetype of someone who is clearly the person you could trust in times of [00:10:00] doubt, like a war or a famine or a recession.
If you take any of the leaders today and you put them up against people who historically have been incredible leaders, they are so far from them. There’s no comparison. We’re in a very dire need of good leaders. And I think having podcasts like this are going to really help allow just a regular average Joe, whether it’s you or whether it’s your family member or your friend or your colleague, to be able to tune out from whatever bullshit is going through the mainstream or on social.
And maybe hear some honest, genuine thoughts, long form, meaning, you know, there’s no time constraint here really kind of talk about things either by myself or with people and just really mold through this process of trying to [00:11:00] understand what’s going on in life. What’s going on with me. What’s going on with the world.
What’s going on with topic X, Y, Z. It doesn’t matter. But this long form. Podcast format is just a great way to bring the conversation back to just being a good human being, being effective, being productive, being strong, being responsible, hence the being responsible podcast. So I’m super excited about it.
What I want to do is I want to have each episode covering a specific topic or. And at the end of that episode, by the way, that could be me talking by myself like a monologue, or it could be me with a guests and I have guests lined up already. So that’s great news. We’re going to start to see some people coming.
We’re going to talk about some really interesting things. And then at the end, or maybe midway through, I’m going to cover what I’ve seen and experienced in Whitman. That week, till [00:12:00] that point. So if I do two episodes a week, I can talk about the first half of the week and the F the first episode of that week.
And the second episode that week, I’ll talk about things that I’ve discovered since then. And that way I can cover trending topics like the news. Um, and I can also talk about something very specific to, and I think that that was an idea that. Uh, I came up with, after talking with a business partner of mine, who’s also got a podcast. And he wanted to do a show format. And I thought it was great idea. So why not? Let’s try it out. Let’s see how it goes. So I’ll be doing. And, um, you know, I’ve, I really do feel strongly about this. I think it’s great that, you know, I’m changing.
I don’t feel like it’s very good to continue pushing through something. If you feel like your, your heart isn’t there. I mean, there’s real good examples of when you might [00:13:00] want to do that. Like for example, if you’re running an organization, you’ve got a lot of staff and you’re literally just moments away from X success.
I think there are really good times when you can just push through. But with regards to my own passion, this is a passion project of mine. I’m not doing this for money or anything, right. I’m just doing it for fame, but you know, um, the, the, the basis of this isn’t financial reward, it’s just sharing, it’s documenting my thoughts and the thoughts of my guests and really giving people value.
And I think that the best way for me to do that is to focus now on these other list of topics, there’s a bit of overlap there. I’m still going to talk about relationships to some degree, because I think the. Are well within the realm of being responsible. There’s a lot of stuff in there that people would want to have help with.
And I also will talk about my own relationships. Like I just started a new relationship. It’s going really well. [00:14:00] And, uh, you know, it, it’s, it’s, it’s a learning curve, just like every other relationship. And there’s times where I’ve felt like maybe I could have done that better, or maybe I gave into my. You know, primal instincts there when I should’ve been focusing on something else.
And so, you know, there’s a lot that we can still talk about in the realm of the topics that were covered in unleash love. So if you are a subscriber to unleashed love, and you’re like, oh, this isn’t for me anymore. Please don’t go. Don’t unsubscribe, give us a shot, give it a try. Let me have another chance at keeping you as an interested and enthusiastic.
Subscriber, because I guarantee you, all the things I’m talking about, you can relate to, like, I’m not talking about a specific profession or a specific niche I’m talking about everyday things. Things like discipline hard work and delayed gratification. Right? How do we apply those? [00:15:00] Why are they important?
Where do we start? Um, what are the tricks. What have other people done that have given them success? Do we have any case studies? Who’s killing it right now. All right. And I’m going to cover those things so that, you know, we can all do this together. It’s a team effort. So thank you for giving me this platform to communicate with you.
I really appreciate it. I’m excited. The next episode will be a. Actual full episode on the format that I’ve just explained. So we’re in this we’ve begun. The clock is ticking. Let’s do it. Thanks for tuning in. I’ll see you on the next episode. Take care.